I am entering a new phase in the Flaming Sword stakes. The sword is getting heavy and seems to be burning my hand.
So I put this to you. Are these unreasonable parries?
1) I am uncomfortable with unsupervised (that's right...you heard me) sleepovers where boys (and probably alcohol) will be present.
2) Boyfriends do not need to visit on week nights (and no, I don't think he was helping her study).
3) On the majority of school nights it is advisable to come straight home through town without stopping for a 2 hour tryst with boyfriend in the Botanical Gardens, rendering arrival home at circa 7pm and in the dark!
4) Boyfriends, whilst welcome to visit on Friday-Sat nights, do not need to be entertained in the bedroom. There are two large living areas and the adults are usually in their study.
What do you think? Should I be 'chillin' the sword' at 16 years and 4 months?
5 comments:
I think that you are well within your rights as a parent to do whatever makes you comfortable. Your house, your rules.
When I was in high school, I do remember having an occasional co-ed sleepover, after prom. That being said, it was always at a home where parents were home, and it was well known that it would be co-ed, supervised, and without alcohol.
I did occasionally go out with high school boyfriends on a school night, but I was always home at a specified time.
I did have boys over at that age, but always in a place in the house where the potential for supervision existed -- we might be in the basement, but anyone could come downstairs at any point. And although they usually did not, there was always the possibility. I would think that a rule about only being in the bedroom with the door open would be perfectly reasonable.
This isn't right or wrong, this was just how it was for me when I was around BA's age. And hey, I think I turned out reasonably okay... Good luck!
Four feet on the floor, at all times. No closed doors. No bedroom acess until marriage. I don't care how old fashioned I am, my parents rules stand for my kids!
I am with you, mama! These are going to be the rules in my house someday too!
I...umm...may have gone against some of those rules as a teenager... All I have to say is thankfully I married the boy I broke those rules with! ;)
Thank you for your input folks. It is interesting to hear the different approaches parents took (and the ones you think you will take)....
Oh my goodness. I don't even want to THINK about having to make those kinds of rules yet.
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