This is not a new phenomenon. I have fallen afoul of facebook before, albeit in a different manner, but it still surprises me when I upset someone unwittingly.
I may be overthinking this, but I am of the Aussie generation that use gentle, deprecating humour to indicate mateship. The kids nowadays seem to have swallowed the hyperbole dictionary!
Picture of 15 year old pouting at camera.
Oh you are perfect.
Why can't I look like you
You are hawt
etc etc etc
On the other hand, when I see a picture, on facebook, of a normally very laid back acquaintance, at his engagement party, wearing a SUIT (well, I might add), my response is to rib him mildly whilst still indicating that I approve of his 'look'.
"Hey Bob (not his real name). Wow! You look almost respectable!!!" Lol
This is apparently not the thing to say. I received a message from his fiancee shortly afterwards, on my facebook messenger, asking me why I felt it necessary to be rude to her partner.
Was I out of line? Is 20th century humour unacceptable in a 21st century medium?
I made my peace by sending her this message:
Sorry. Wasn't meaning to be rude. Was teasing him, as our artistic types (nb husbands/partners) are rarely seen dressed up. I forget facebook doesn't have vocal intonation. He ACTUALLY looks terrific. As do you. Congrats to the both of you again.
She hasn't responded.
I think I am not going to let it worry me.